Little girl suffering bullying raises her palm asking to stop the violence

WRECKER: Expectation vs. Reality

I’ve always struggled, in my mind, with the proper way (versus the realistic way) to react to seeing your child bullied.

Ryan Wrecker
March 26, 2018 - 10:00 am

I’ve always struggled, in my mind, with the proper way (versus the realistic way) to react to seeing your child bullied.

In a recent article at, Billy Busch is accused of assaulting a kid who was bullying his kid. 

Busch’s lawyer is quoted as saying, “School personnel failed to react, so he did what every parent would have done in that situation. The school's video of the event clearly shows that Mister Busch did not act with any maliciousness, and that his actions were directed at protecting the safety of his son and others involved."

I worry about everything.  But nothing occupies my mind more than the well-being of my kid.  In my mind, I don’t know if it’s possible to have no reaction if someone hurts your kid in front of you, especially if your child is very young.  But you should be able to walk way and handle any situation without physical confrontation, if possible.   

In theory, I would go as far as mimicking a Liam Neeson movie to protect my kids.  But expectation and reality are two different things.  That’s why it’s hard to predict what anyone would do if their kid was caught in the middle of an emergency at school - much like many parents are currently dealing with in Parkland, Florida. 

You have to know what you believe in and why you believe it.  Otherwise, you might get pushed in a direction the wind is blowing.  It’s easy to get caught up in someone else’s emotion, and it’s even easier to get caught in your own emotion.  Those feelings can be deceptive and before you know it, you might substitute yourself into your kids battles. 

There's always going to be things that happen in this world outside of your control, and there's nothing you can do about it.  And it may not feel like your reaction is something you can control either.  There's no real science to accurately predict how you'll react to anything.  The best thing we can do is prevent it from happening.  

If anything, this conversation is gearing its way on how to better protect kids inside of schools.  It's something we're all in favor of.  Hopefully, we can get there before we allow political motivations to get in the way.